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Couples DBT Fast Track Boot Camp

This program is designed to teach skills that increase the ability to build mend, and cope effectively in intimate relationships.  After a brief awareness exercise, there will be homework review and questions, followed by teaching of new material.


Required reading by Alan Fruzzetti's The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation will be provided. Session length is 90 minutes.

Sessions are Thursdays from 4:15-5:45 p.m.


Class 1

Introduction, Goals

  • Why? Why now?

  • Establish safety

  • Identify and reduce invalidation

  • Rebuild relationships

  • Increase accurate expression

  • Increase validation

  • Problem management

  • Transform conflict into closeness

  • Acceptance & engagement

Calm Sea

Class 2

Safety, Wisdom, 

  • Choosing a state of mind to promote safety,  and wisdom with balance

  • Learn skills to overcome the anxiety of learning new behavior & doing things differently.

Dandelion Parachute Seed

Class 3

Emotional Choices, Behavioral Change

  • Target Emotional Dysregulation

  • Learn how to control type, frequency, intensity, & duration of emotions

Two Dried Leaves

Class 4

Behavioral Change

  • Learn to change unwanted, destructive, or ineffective reactions to events 

Pebble Beach

Class 5

Invalidation, Deescalation, Connectedness

  • Reduce resentment 

  • Learn skills to overcome invalidation

Flying Seagulls

Class 6

Interpersonal Integrity, Recovering from Invalidation

  • Identify and Hold on to values

  • Receive information without defensiveness

  • Separating identity from others’ perceptions

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Class 7

Building Relationships, Gratitude, Forgiveness

  • Let go of anger about what should/could be/have been

  • Transform Anger into compassion 

Cliffs and Ocean

Class 8

Accurate Expression, Be Heard, Get Needs Met

  • Learn how to be heard without escalating

  • Learn how to be heard without compromising your values 

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Class 9

Radical Acceptance

  • Get over feeling stuck while waiting for things to change


Class 10

Dialectical Problem Management 

  • Combat All or nothing thinking

  • Think in terms of 'getting' vs. ‘giving up’ 

  • Lead by example

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Class 11

Relationship Mindfulness

  • Change your focus

  • Learn to not take someone for Granted


Class 12

Putting It All Together

  • The big picture from acceptance (admitting what is) to zest (enthusiastic enjoyment)

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